I remember growing up when bullying was the order of the day, towards others who were physically different. In our African American communities much of it related to skin color, hair texture, whether one of your parents was of another race. Seldom was religion or ethnic groups selected out for this bullying towards others. What tempered some of our bullying was the fact that many of our cousins and other relatives were of lighter hues and therefore many of us had to answer to our parents.
The adults seemed to accept the racial mix, some which was seen when different Caucasian men would visit. Most were aware of the habitual violation of our women in the past and the present. When we moved to Breckenridge Hills in St. Louis County (on land that had been owned by an African American farmer who designated it for, only, African American buyers. Charles Vatterott was the developer) we lived in the middle of Caucasians but were bussed to all African American schools. The bullying continued based on the same criteria of skin color, texture of hair and parents, but it became more vehement when infatuation or love came about. Girls and boys of a darker hue who fell for those of a lighter one quickly became the object of scorn. My deceased wife, Sylvia, was derided because her father was Caucasian and mother African American; however there were others of the same ilk and they banded together for survival.
I am writing about some of my history because of a concern about the CHILDREN of gay or lesbian adults. These adults who consider themselves parents are placing these children in volatile psychological situations. The reason for the prior paragraphs was to set up for what I have seen and experienced in this world of slights and downright violence toward differences. I have had friends of this persuasion who had children and have seen the children encounter multitudes of problems trying to grow up. Most children have some difficulty but some added burdens require a great deal of psychological help.
I only hope those of this persuasion who want children are prepared to raise them through the bullying and other pressures on them. When as adults we fall in love with another adult we make heartfelt decisions based on these feelings. Bringing children into this situation (even in heterosexual marriages or relationships) shouldn't be done lightly. Children encounter peer animosity much more so than most adults remember and a lot of it results in bullying. I am not a psychologist but I would advise partners to visit one before CHILDREN. Children deserve all the help and protection available!!!